Confidence is magnetic. It draws people in, helps us take bold steps forward, and makes us feel truly alive. Yet, it’s not something we’re born with…it’s a skill, a muscle we can develop with the right tools and a bit of courage. This week on World’s Your Oysta, I interviewed my friend Elizabeth Sulcer, a renowned stylist whose unique perspective on confidence has shaped not only her own journey but also how she approaches fashion and self-expression for her clients. Listen here on November 17th to hear Elizabeth share how her confidence was built through a stricter upbringing and her advice for anyone looking to own their power and self-worth.

Why Confidence is Essential

Confidence is more than just a feeling; it’s a way of showing up in the world. It impacts every interaction, every opportunity, and every relationship. When we’re confident, we radiate a sense of assurance that draws in experiences aligned with our best selves. Confidence can help us say yes to what aligns with us—and no to what doesn’t.

How to Build Confidence

Building confidence is a journey of self-discovery and growth, but it doesn’t have to be a rigid, serious process. Here are a few ways to start developing it:

1. Get to Know Your “Why”: Confidence begins with knowing your purpose, your values, and what truly matters to you. Take time to write down what drives you. What makes you excited? What brings you joy? Knowing these things provides a foundation that keeps you centered, no matter what challenges come your way.

2. Practice Self-Compassion: We’re our own harshest critics, and this self-judgment can undermine our confidence. Try practicing kindness toward yourself, especially on hard days. When you’re compassionate with yourself, confidence grows naturally because you stop doubting your worth.

3. Embrace Rejection as Growth: Confidence isn't about succeeding every time. It’s about knowing you can bounce back. Treat rejection as a learning experience. Each “no” brings you closer to the right “yes,” helping you grow resilient, fearless, and ultimately, more self-assured.

Some Tips for Building Confidence

Here are a few unexpected ideas that might just change your approach to confidence:

• Talk to Yourself: While it may feel odd at first, try giving yourself a pep talk. Stand in front of a mirror and affirm your strengths or accomplishments. Saying positive things out loud about yourself can help shift your inner dialogue to one of empowerment.

• Dress as Your Future Self: Style is a powerful tool for building confidence. Dress like the person you’re becoming. Elizabeth shared how this idea has played a huge role in her life—how she embodies what she calls “her,” her vision of the ultimate woman. Think about what your future self would wear—someone confident, authentic, and radiant. Clothes carry energy, and dressing with intention can serve as a daily reminder of who you’re growing into.

• Reframe Fear as Excitement: Nervousness and excitement are similar emotions physically, but our minds perceive them differently. Instead of saying “I’m scared,” tell yourself, “I’m excited.” This reframe can shift you from feeling stuck to feeling energized and open to possibilities.

The Takeaway

Confidence isn’t about perfection; it’s about authenticity, resilience, and showing up as you are. When you tap into your values, nurture self-compassion, and embrace challenges, you’re creating a path of self-assuredness. This week, Elizabeth Sulcer’s story on World’s Your Oysta shows that confidence isn’t a given; it’s a skill we all can develop, regardless of where we start. Confidence is a journey, not a destination—so keep experimenting, be kind to yourself, and let each step strengthen your belief in who you are and who you’re becoming.